Change can mean many things, but my favorite definition is the passing from one place, state, form, or phase to another. It can be a slow process, or a quick one, and is evident all around us. It’s everywhere in nature as plants and animals are born, grow, die, and decay, returning to the earth to feed her soil. Change is everywhere within us, as well. It’s only our resistance to change that makes it uncomfortable.
Think of a baby and how quickly they change. Their bodies are constantly growing and getting stronger, their brains are always seeking the new, and their physical capabilities are ever-changing. If you’ve been around any baby for a period of time, you’ve probably noticed how different they can seem after just a couple of days. We find it amazing, and yet the baby takes it all in stride.
Why is the baby so much more comfortable with all its change, and why are adults so freaked out by it?
The answer lies in resistance and attachment. The baby is not resistant to their changes, nor are they attached to the outcomes. When a baby is learning how to walk, they just go with their natural impulses. They don’t care about when they will walk or how they will look in figuring it out. But when adults are learning something new, whether it’s a skill or a new way of being in the world, we have so much resistance and attachment to the process.
We worry about what the future will look like, and how we will appear to others during the changing. The baby has none of that. They are just in the moment. Working when they feel like working, and resting when their body says to rest. We have a lot to learn from our babies.
We will keep diving into the topic of change throughout the coming year, but for now I want you to think about your personal relationship with it. Do you fear change, do you welcome it? Are you accepting or weary? How much do you resist change?