“An empty vessel makes the loudest sound, so they that have the least wit are the greatest babblers.” -Plato
Or, according to this article, “The Louder the Monkey, the Smaller its Balls.”
There’s an unintentional primate theme running through my posts and ponderings lately, but monkeying around aside, we’ve all seen and experienced these empty vessel/small balls individuals. They’re the ones who make the most noise and ruckus, but who leave us feeling drained. Whether in a large social gathering or in a more intimate setting, the howler monkeys with the loudest voices have the least to offer when it comes to substance.
You’ll know you’re dealing with one of these empty vessel people, or recognize this quality in yourself, when the person in question clearly feels the need to puff up their attributes and accomplishments or is always on the offensive. While it seems like this is simply a case of being vainglorious, it is not the ego speaking here.
It is often said that we judge and criticize others for the very same things we don’t like about ourselves. While inherent in all of us, this is especially true for the people who feel empty. They feel like their small balls mean they are fundamentally less-than, and so overcompensate for their feelings of inadequacy by howling the loudest.
Fill your own vessel
So what to do if you feel this way, or are being howled at? The process is the same no matter the source. First, step back. Step back from yourself and your thoughts. Step back from the other person. Take a moment, then lower the decibel level by rejecting the auditory attack. If you are the one feeling the need to babble, release that need. Usually, all you need to do is think to yourself that you are releasing that feeling. Then, while you still may not be totally comfortable, it’s easier to walk through the awkwardness and just be yourself. If you are on the receiving end of the babbling, you can either not engage with the other person or take a Charles De Mar approach. This video visually demonstrates the technique far better than I could ever describe in words.
What is important to remember when this need to howl and babble comes up in you or is thrown your way by someone else, is that it comes from a perception of inadequacy. Either release that feeling within you, or laugh it off. Fill your vessel, or your balls, with the stuff of life and peace comes easy.
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