Grace comes into the soul, as the morning sun into the world; first a dawning, then a light; and at last the sun in his full and excellent brightness.
~ Thomas Adams
There are many ways you can use the word, grace, but for today I want to combine several definitions into one.
2 d: disposition to or an act or instance of kindness, courtesy, or clemency
3 c: ease and suppleness of movement or bearing
8 b: the quality or state of being considerate or thoughtful
When you take these three meanings and brew them all together, you get what it means for me to live with grace.
An ease of being that comes from kindness, consideration, and thoughtfulness.
Living with Grace
To allow her into your life, start as Thomas Adams described. A little bit at a time until you embody the full splendor of grace. Start inviting her in with these practices:
- Listen more. Talk less. Be the empathetic ear for someone. We’re craving someone to just listen to us without judgement or even advice.
- Slow down. When you live gracefully, time becomes expansive. It opens right up for you to accomplish the items on your to-do list as well as to have the time and smell the roses.
- Speak person-to-person. That’s where the other humans are. Social media is great, but it doesn’t take the place of face-to-face interaction.
- Make eye contact. This takes the connection deeper.
- Look up and around when you walk somewhere. Keep your eyes off the ground or your phone and notice what’s around you.
- Open your senses. Get quiet and notice what you hear, smell, and feel. There’s a lot more around you than you normally let in.
- Be aware of others around you. Can you hold a door, carry a package, clear snow from a neighbor’s driveway?
When you practice these things daily, even if it’s just one of them each day, you’ll start to find that an ease of being comes naturally. Then it starts to have a snowball effect. Ease in one area of your life brings about serenity in other parts of your life. And so on, and so on.
Who couldn’t use a little more ease, a little more kindness, a little more grace? Let her be your acquaintance, and soon she’ll be your friend, then you best friend, then your lifelong partner.