“My theory on life is that life is beautiful. Life doesn’t change. You have a day, and a night, and a month, and a year. We people change – we can be miserable or we can be happy. It’s what you make of your life.”
~ Mohammed bin Rashid Al Maktoum
Make your Life Beautiful
So much yes to the above quote. And I would add that you have a responsibility to yourself and to your loved ones to make your life happy. Because if you’re not living your beauty, your truth, then you really have nothing to offer to anyone, most especially yourself.
It is impossible to be your true self and be miserable. If you’re miserable then you are also contributing to others’ misery. You can’t show someone else the way out if you’re stuck. I’m reminded of those movies where someone is trapped in quicksand. The more they struggle, the more they drown, so they survive by staying still. They’re alive but not able to go anywhere or do anything. They can’t experience any joy, only stagnation and immobility.
You always have a choice to be miserable or to be happy. Even in the crappiest of circumstances, you have a choice. It may not feel like it in that moment, and you may have to feel the sadness and other downer emotions first, but you always have a choice.
Even when you Feel Stuck
How many times have you felt like the world is against you? How many times have you felt trapped? How many times have you felt miserable? We’ve all been there. Sometimes it’s your status quo, day in and day out, month after month, year after year.
The good news is that you can get yourself unstuck much quicker than you got yourself in the quicksand. Because, really, this is all your doing. You can try to blame it on other people or circumstances, but in every moment you have a choice between misery and happiness and to see that life is beautiful.
Life is Beautiful
To move out of the quicksand and out of the feeling of misery, you have to choose what lights you up. The way to do this without being a narcissistic asshole is to do it with integrity.
Say you’re feeling stuck in a job you hate. You have a responsibility to yourself and to your family to provide, and if you leave your job you might not be able to hold up that responsibility. You do need, and want, to honor that commitment. Finding the beauty might be as simple as a shift in perspective: I hate my job but it provides me with financial stability along with the time and resources to pursue what really lights me up. Or you slowly start to build your side hustle until you can quit the soul-sucking job. Or you save like crazy over the next six months to build a nest egg to live off of while you find your dream job.
See, you didn’t have to abandon your family or become homeless to find your truth. You found that life is beautiful when you honor both yourself and those you love. And when you honor yourself, your truth, your beauty, you open up the space for others to do the same.